tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365270122907212972.post450528259225664715..comments2023-03-24T04:43:21.915-07:00Comments on How I learned to run faster than the zombies by avoiding corndogs: Let's Talk About FearThingsTreasuredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08816942927568036789noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365270122907212972.post-26977221170906131412010-06-07T08:45:14.656-07:002010-06-07T08:45:14.656-07:00Thank you both for such wonderful comments. Someti...Thank you both for such wonderful comments. Sometimes just hearing another perspective helps you get through it, you know?ThingsTreasuredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816942927568036789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365270122907212972.post-44430249895950125102010-06-06T17:03:15.095-07:002010-06-06T17:03:15.095-07:00I want to put this in perspective...because some o...I want to put this in perspective...because some of the things you said here made me think,especially when you said "What am I? 5!?"<br /><br />(And by the way -I am talking to myself with this as well, because I seriously need to pull my head out of my you-know-what!)<br /><br />There is nothing more sacred and important than the commitment we make to ourselves. You have complete control over whether you break promises to yourself or keep them, whether you stay true to yourself or not, whether you become the woman you want to be or don't, whether you let yourself down because you gave up, or you are a warrior and never surrender. You have control!!!<br /><br />Because, my dearest Crystal, you (and I) are mountains better, stronger, more capable, and more incredible than Drew. I refuse to be like him in any way! <br />You are stronger than you think, you have control, you are a goddess!!!Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15686481163353874399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-365270122907212972.post-36606128961250729202010-06-06T14:05:31.630-07:002010-06-06T14:05:31.630-07:00I think to have a fear of failing is simply an adm...I think to have a fear of failing is simply an admission that until certain thing change, you have already failed yourself. The fear of failing is admitting guilt for all the things you would have to change in order to succeed. Perhaps start there. Make a list of all the ways you are failing yourself right now. Come to terms with it. Because once you put words to it and admit what's really going on, it will still control you. <br /><br />for instance, growing up I wasn't really allowed to do much between school and the time my dad came home, so I'd go to the fridge out of boredom (even if I didn't end up eating anything). And now that I'm an adult and can make my own decisions, I find myself doing it. I'm guilty of staying in old patterns that I recognize and feel helpless in changing. To solve this, I either need more hobbies/activities or to become more social and enlist the help of people to keep me from eating when I'm bored. <br /><br />So instead of a fear of failing, or a fear of succeeding, I have a battle plan. <br /><br />As for the exercise and Zumba class, trust me when I say this. 10% of the people in the gym are thinking "whoa... look at what just rolled in" and the other 90% is a mix of empathy/sympathy (because they can appreciate the work it takes to stay fit), congratulations (people will respect that you're trying), the desire to help/cheer, and complete oblivion (they're too focused on what they're doing). That first 10% can go fuck themselves. <br /><br />Why should you let someone else dictate you doing what you know is good and right for your body? Okay, so you might look like a fool, but give people a little credit. They might end up helping you, motivating you, and inspiring you. (case-in-point, when I took a yoga class for people with bad backs, I was in a class full of people who pull muscles. The teacher and I both had traumatic injuries to our back. I know she'd look out for me. What I didn't expect was that when I was having trouble, people would spot me, offer their hints, or just mind their own fucking business. Not a single jeer or laugh when I was falling over.) <br /><br />As for eating out and general meal planning stuff -- can you make your own "frozen dinner" -- i.e. something real easy to store in the freezer and reheat? My go-to for that is lentils and rice with curry. It's in my freezer in pre-portioned bits and I can throw it in the microwave for a few minutes and feel satisfied. And if you buy it in bulk/dried it's hella cheap. You can add tofu, cauliflower, onions, spinach, etc. to it as well. <br /><br />I'm not going to sugar coat this. Suck it up. Really, just quit the pity party that makes you think that cooking food for yourself is something other than an absolute labor of love. It's going to get you nowhere. <br /><br />I love you darling, and I don't want you to think otherwise, but losing weight isn't all fun and games. It takes serious commitment and practice. (I'm not going to say discipline, b/c we all have our bad days and shouldn't chastise ourselves too much for it.) Get back on the horse and don't look back. <br /><br />Figure out what your goals are (the big ones can be vague) and then break them down into smaller goals you can celebrate (running a block, running half a mile, losing 5 lbs, dropping a size, etc.). And then very mathematically study those small goals and try to figure what it would take to attain those goals. It's not rocket science, though sometimes it really feels like it.Fat Girl vs. Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08328706448357274645noreply@blogger.com